Hello and welcome to a very overdue T-Girl Tips I have missed you all so much and look forward to being a little more regular with sending out Julie’s T-Girls Tips.  Well there has been a lot happening since we were last together! I was recently approached by a very successful company who asked me to come on board as one of their success/business coaches. The opportunity was too good to pass up.  It has been awesome experience but has taken up a lot of my time.

This newsletter is jammed packed with news about a sensational style program that many of you girls have already gotten great results from, a great little video on feminine movement and a date claimer for a makeover workshop here on The Gold Coast. Of course we have our regular feature five minutes with.

I am very passionate about contributing to the TG community so I want you to know even if I do wander from time to time that I am always here to support you.  This year has seen some amazing opportunities for me two of which were writing for both Frock Magazine and Transliving I have had several articles published and had great feedback.   Graphics of Frock and Transliving

As a trained image consultant I see so many genetic women struggle with how they look and what others think of them. They struggle to know what styles suit their body shape the best and how to conceal their problem areas.  I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you to know how to dress to look and feel feminine…well I actually do know your pain because I have experienced it first hand through my many TG clients.  With all of this in mind would it be ok to share with you a style program that has already helped so many of you.  When I first found this program I was so excited because I know it would help so many thousands of you girls.

Do yourself a huge favour and take the time to look at the program in detail; and if you think it would help you go ahead and invest in yourself. Because I feel so guilty that I have neglected you I want to give you the program at a huge reduction.  The program normally sells for $97 USD but for the next 30 days I am offering it to you for $79 USD but you need to put the code TGTSO to get your discount.

Here is an overview of what the program can do for you!

Your Ultimate Cross-Dressing Style Makeover Program

You’ve got style!

Regardless of where you are on your feminine journey, each and every woman has her own unique and gorgeous style.  It’s not a matter of age, beauty, wealth, or size – and it’s so much more than just fashion. It’s about having the freedom to explore, discover and celebrate your femininity and unique style consistently and confidently.

Every T-girl needs a BFF to tell her whether or not she can “walk out the front door in that outfit.” That’s where The Femininity Coach and Your Personal Style Solutions fit in. We give you – and women like you all over the world – the most comprehensive information in a confidential, relaxed and engaging web-active format. It’s like having your very own 24/7 image consultant without the exorbitant one-on-one fees!

You’ll learn how to bring focus to your most flattering features, downplay your least favourite, and master the art of “putting it all together.” We’ll cover hot topics like deportment, makeup, shoes, hair and wigs – no fashionable stone is left unturned!

When you invest in your custom-made “My Personal Style Solutions” program, you’ll have more confidence in what you already know works well, be inspired by new ideas, and find the missing pieces of your style puzzle. Knowing what styles to look for, how to coordinate and accessorize and how to shop wisely will save you Frustration, Time, and Money – as well as the Heartache and Insecurity that come from feeling inadequately dressed.

My wish for you is that you look and feel great; that you dress in a way that makes you smile whenever you pass a mirror, and makes others smile when they pass you by. The way you dress will profoundly affect the way you feel, and you deserve to feel abundant joy! With Your Personal Style Solutions, you’ll travel more smoothly along your journey with confidence and high self-esteem.

Ultimately, style is about confidence and feeling good about your authentic self. To understand and express your personal style is to give yourself the gift of freedom. You’ll be able to relax more, feel confident and secure, enjoy your life, and reach boldly for the goals closest to your heart.

To find out more click on the banner

Julie Davis is a Femininity Coach who runs a transformation service for Cross-Dressers and Transgender women. To find out more please visit her website.

How To Walk Like A Woman

Here is a little video I thought you might enjoy on feminine movement it shows some lovely feminine moves.

T-Girls Makeover workshop, clothes swap and Christmas get together

I would love to hear your stories and suggestions here on Julie’s T-Girl Tips. Feel free to email me julie@thefemininitycoach.com

Julie: Tell us about Michelle

Michelle: Well I am a straight to the point type of girl who loves to make people laugh. I am also loving and caring and addicted to shopping lol Oops! I love writing songs, graphics, drawing, playing video games, listening to music and cooking, and also like to let my hair down every now and then.

Julie: Michelle, what has been you biggest challenge so far?

Michelle: Good question Julie as there have been so many over the, but I would have to say the latest challenge I had was trying to tell my Nan (Grandma) that I am a cross dresser, My Nan is like my adopted Mother and loves me to death and basically said She would accept me no matter what!

Julie: If you had to start over again, what would you do differently?

Michelle: Oh that’s an easy one hehe . I would have never gone out and got tattoos well not in the spot that I have them on anyway but ¾ sleeves cover that lol.

Julie: Michelle, who do you admire and Why?

Michelle: I actually admire my Dad he is such a trooper the amount of stuff and situation’s he has had to deal with over the years, with his separation with my Mum and losing his own father to cancer he managed to pull through stronger than ever, he is my best friend.

Julie: It takes courage and determination to come out, what tips can you share and what is your motivator?

Michelle: My motivation is the fact I can’t stand being hidden away and not being myself, every year that has passed Michelle has been getting stronger and stronger and needs to burst out just like a new butterfly from it’s cocoon,

The best tip I can give is the old cliché that life is to short; who knows what tomorrow may bring.

Julie: What are your three biggest success tips

Michelle: Well, for me a good moisturiser as my skin gets dry easy I use Nivea soft intensive you can’t go wrong; using black eye shadow and a cotton tip instead of eyeliner and do it before your foundation to blend it in nice.

Fast Fun Facts about Michelle

Nick name: Mas / Mascara

Star sign: Scorpio

Favourite Book: Animalia by Graeme Base, this is a classic from my childhood. The drawings and detail are amazing with hidden twists along the way. I also had the pleasure of meeting him and getting my book signed. He is such a nice man.

Favourite Movie: Hmm… there are so many I have loved over the years, but I always go with the first movie that made me cry, which was E.T. by Steven Spielberg. It’s an oldie but a goodie, but gets me every time.

Favourite saying: I fear being like everyone I hate. I fear failure. I fear losing control. I love balancing between chaos and control with everything I do. I always have a fear of going one way or another, getting lost in something, or losing everything to get lost in. And I fear being a completely acceptable sheep in society.

“I never said to be like me, I say to be like you and make a difference.” – Marilyn Manson

Best advice you ever received: Best advice I had was from a TG friend of mine who said, “Who care’s what people think, go out be free and most of all be yourself!

Best holiday: Oh, I had the most awesome trip overseas, visited a few interesting place’s like London, Rome, Malta, Thailand, Singapore in a matter of 2 weeks. Apart from jet lag it was amazing to experience such diversity in cultures and food. Also living in Malaysia for 2 years was a blowout. I really miss that place.

Long term goal: Is to go all the way.

What others say about me: I get a lot of comments about my body, legs and my style of clothes – all positive feedback to which helps with confidence.

One way to continue on your path to femininity successfully is to dress for your body shape. Dressing for your body shape allows you to look great, feel great, and understand your body. Understanding your body is the best way to dress your best and look your best, especially when shopping. So many t-girls get stuck buying the wrong things when shopping, just because it looks good on the hanger, doesn’t mean it looks good on you!

The first step is to find out exactly what body shape you have. There are four common body shapes, pear, apple, hourglass and rectangle. Many t-girls are rectangles, however because of hormonal therapy; t-girls come in every shape and size, so it’s important to know which category you fit in.

If you are a pear your upper body is smaller than your lower body. When pears gain weight, they gain it in their hips and thighs. Pears look great in fitted tops in lots of patterns and colors paired with solid colored bottoms, to make those hips and legs slimmer. They also look great in a-line and flared skirts. When wearing jeans, dark denim it is best and always accessories your neck and ears to bring attention to the top portion of your body.

Apples have upper bodies that are larger than the lower, and unfortunately, when they gain weight it goes directly to their tummies! When it comes to jeans flat fronts and pockets help you look curvier, and a-line skirts that are short also flatter this shape. As far as tops, keep it simple with less patterns and don’t forget the right bra is the most important part of flattering this shape.

Okay…if you are one of the lucky t-girls that have a curvy hourglass figure, that’s great for you. This means your hips and shoulders are proportioned and you can wear patterns galore. But remember, you look the best in V-necks and stretch denim. Also, because of your small waist, be wary of jeans that gap in the back. And remember, don’t hide your body, baggy clothes are not flattering to your shape.

If you have a rectangle figure, like most t-girls then you have amazing legs. Show them off by wearing low rise jeans. Because your figure is straight up and down, you shouldn’t wear anything with vertical patterns, because you’ll look thinner. Wear scoop neck or v-neck tops to give you a curvier silhouettes. Other than that, have fun with colors and patterns.

What shape are you and what challenges have you had with your figure?

Cross dressers and transgenders should present themselves to the world by showing others their true selves, not offering the world a mask and disguise. Many are ashamed of their features, their style, their innate sense of womanhood and try to hide behind a mask of makeup, clothing, costumes, and other attributes that shield the world from their true selves.

However, it’s important to remember that your personal style is your way to communicate so you canportray your confidence, your integrity and the true essence of who you are.

People are influenced both consciously and unconsciously by your appearance, your physical attributes, your accessories. Important also are your speaking patterns and grammar along with your body language.  You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so putting your best foot forward no matter where or what the situation is imperative for your personal style success.  Beauty is within, but your outer impression is a reflection of your personality, your life, your professional goals, and your self esteem.

Polish, poise, posture, all add up to a you making a fabulous presentation of yourself. Always present yourself in the best possible way-your personal and professional self must always be your authentic self. So many times we see people who are so put together, but the minute the cameras stop rolling, they turn into a nasty person that no one wants to be around.  Look deep within and find your authentic self and always let her shine through, no matter the situation.

Learn to stand out in the crowd. Select clothes that suggest POWER and CONFEDENCE and pair them with solid and vibrant colours and accessories that spell success. Build your wardrobe around two or three basic colours and add accents using a blouse, shirt and accessories. Be an inspiration to other t-girls and cross dressers by raising the bar on the way the world views your personal style.

What mask have you hidden behind that are hindering others from seeing your true self? How can you, as a t-girl, revamp your personal style while still staying true to  your authentic self?

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

Sincerely,

Summer is here! Whether you live in one of the hottest places on earth or a comfortable vacation spot, dressing classy for the summer can be hard…especially if you are a TGirl!

Before you start redoing your summer wardrobe, your first step is to purge your closet and store everything that can’t be worn this summer. Storing your fall and winter clothes not only keeps your mind from trying to get you to wear something that’s not season appropriate; but it also increases your closet real-estate which gives you loads of room for your summer shopping.

When shopping for the summer there are a few wardrobe staples that every TGirl should have:

A Flattering Bathing Suit. A great fitting flattering one or two piece bathing suit will last a TGirl for years to come. Because we are developing our wardrobe staples make sure you pick one that’s black, white or navy so that you’ll always have a swimsuit that doesn’t go out of style. Of course, you can build upon that base later.

A Strapless Convertible Bra. This is a very important staple in a TGirl’s wardrobe, especially in the summer. Showing your bra straps is a major no, especially when wearing strapless dresses, tank tops and halters. Invest in a convertible strapless bra that can be rearranged in as many possibilities as your wardrobe.

A Built In Bra Tank. Sometimes you just can’t wear a bra under everything. A built in bra tank allows you to feel the summer breeze without sacrificing support or the illusion of support.

A Ribbed cotton tank. Originally made for men, these shirts are now fashionably acceptable for women and can be incorporated within your wardrobe. You can wear them with jeans and a scarf, a suit jacket, or alone with lots of accessories.

Cotton Clothing. Whether it’s a light weight top in range of colors and prints or a comfortable printed dress, cotton clothing will keep you fashionable while feeling great in the summer heat.

A Strapless Dress. A strapless dress in black, navy, white or tan can be incorporated into your wardrobe seamlessly. Try a maxi dress paired with a great blazer or jean jacket with gladiator sandals or a shorter evening style strapless dress for those summer nights.

Khaki Shorts. Not only do khaki shorts keep you looking cool, but they come in a variety of lengths and look very sophisticated and chic when paired with summer tops.

Drawstring Pants. You’d be amazed at the combinations you can develop with a few pairs of classy drawstring linen pants. A khaki, white and brown pair are essential for a stylish summer wardrobe.

These are a few of your summer basics to get through the rest of this summer. Many of these pieces can easily translate to fall by using a technique called layering. Stay tuned to my blog for more TGirl tips!

Sincerely,

SHIREE

RACHEL

Hi I’m Rachel, a Tgirl living in Auckland. Recently I arranged a holiday to Surfer’s Paradise. This was to be my first holiday as Rachel and I was looking forward to it. I am not bad with my makeup but I know there is always room for improvement, so with a few weeks to go before my holiday I decided to start looking for a professional to give me a makeover. Didn’t matter if I only learned one little thing about makeup, and besides that I wanted a little treat while I was there and why not.

BEFORE

AFTER

Where would I start my search, well Google of course? After a quick search for Makeup Artist’s which didn’t achieve the expected result I came across the Brisbane Tgirl’s web site. Don’t know why I didn’t start there in the first place. I saw a couple of Makeup Artist‘s on their which caught my eye. I emailed 2 of them, the first took a long time to reply but Julie from the Femininity Coach dropped me a line straight away. After a few email’s Julie gave me her phone number and I called the following day. From chatting with her, I could tell this was someone who cared about people. and I arranged a visit.

My flight arrived on a Saturday at 8am and I couldn’t get into my room until 4pm. What a waste of a day, well things could be further from the truth. Julie understanding my situation was quick to find a prefer solution. She arrange to pick me up from the Airport and take me back to her studio for a makeover followed by lunch and then a colour consultation.

The day started off good and just got better. I took all my makeup and had 6 or 7 foundations with me, and guess what. There wasn’t a single foundation in that lot that was correct for my skin colour. Julie with the aid of various coloured cloths showed me what base colour was needed to complement my skin tone. Once she had the correct foundation shade she applied my foundation. Normally I would plaster it on, but when Julie finished it looked so light and natural. She took time to explain everything she was doing and went over it as many times as I needed her too. On the eyes she used a brown eye liner. I never thought of using a brown before, but she explained that it would look softer and more natural and she was so right. Where she could she used my makeup. That way I could reproduce my makeover during the week myself keeping the costs of what I needed to buy to a minimum. Another problem area for me was applying my lip liner. Not only did Julie explain how to put it on, I now enjoy wearing it and use it every time. I have had a couple of professional makeovers before, but I feel that this time I learned a whole lot more than all the times before put together.

Once finished there were photographs, and what girl doesn’t like to have her picture taken. After that we broke for lunch, where I had chance to chat to her husband and another Tgirl who had driven Julie to the airport. Julie took the opportunity to catch up on some emails leaving me to enjoy the endless chat with the others. But once finished we return to the studio and continued our consultation. This time Julie went through various colours that would suit my skin colour. Then she tackled my suitcase, and believe me there was a lot of clothes in that suitcase. She went through which colours/fashions suited me what item went with another. Loads of changes and more pictures. I can tell you it was a fun day. Sadly it came to an end, and Monica (Tgirl) dropped me at my hotel, I was dressed of course.

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AFTER

Julie has regular meeting for all of her Tgirl’s and Sunday was no exception. Back to Julie’s for a fun day meeting a number of other Tgirls and GG’s. Watched a makeover on someone else. Which gave me a chance to refresh my memory from the day before? That was, just what was needed for me. Also meeting the other Tgirl’s gave me the chance to make arrangements to meet them during the coming week. This was going to be one good holiday.

What did I get out of my time at the Femininity Coach, beside a great makeover, new skills, new additions to my makeup kit, an understanding about skin tones, well friends and all you girls out there know how important it is for us Tgirl’s to have friends.

So if you live near Surfer’s or visiting, then you can’t go wrong with a visit to the Femininity Coach. A trip of a life time whether you are at the beginning of your journey or part way through. If you can’t make it to the femininity coach drop them an email anyway. You will find support and help there regardless.

Many thanks to all who helped to make my trip there so memorable, the skills I picked up, the boost it gave to my journey, the fun and most of all the friends.

- Hugs, Rachel

ANGELA

Hi Julie

I want to thank you for my “Transformation Makeover,” for so many years I have had a dream of feeling like a princess, well today I looked and felt like a princess, thank you for making my dream come true.

The road for transgenders and cross dressers is not an easy one, I have harboured my secret of living a double life for so many years and I can’t tell you the difference working with you has made to my confidence, thank you.
Julie, you are so supportive to transgenders and cross dressers and you show that commitment to us girls by teaching us about presentation and makeup. When I go out now people comment how fantastic I look and such a boost to my confidence level (in fact all the girls who have worked with you stand out in the crowd).

I am so glad that I made the effort to come and see you, even though it was such a big step for me.

I would highly recommend that other transgenders and cross dressers use your fantastic service as my confidence levels have soared through the roof.

Once again Julie, thank you so much.

-Love Angela

MONICA

Hi Julie,

I just wanted to express my gratitude for everything you have done for me. I can’t believe how far I have come in such a short space of time…it is amazing! All the other girls that know me are so impressed at the results I have achieved, and to be honest I don’t think I could have ever done this by myself.

Your help and understanding has been invaluable to me. I look back through my photos over the past three months and see the transformation and it is nothing short of a miracle!

I am looking forward to working with as I continue my journey to feminization and I would recommend that anyone who wants to look beautiful and feminine to work with you also. I especially love your transformation workshops and our shopping nights; they have given me so much confidence and self esteem.

-Hugs, Monica

MICHELLE

Dear Julie

A couple of weeks ago now I emailed Julie for some help and advice, from the word go she has helped me in so many ways imaginable. Julie has been totally amazing.

I have been dressing for 23 years now and my whole life has been leading up to this moment in time. I myself know that I have come a long way in a matter of a couple of weeks from my makeup, clothes, confidence and even getting rid of those monkeys on my back. A lot of the time I found myself asking questions and all it took was a push and a helping hand to face those questions and find those answers you need so you can push forward into the future and be the girl you want to be.

Thank you Julie for what you have done for me I don’t know where I would be without you in my life. It’s nothing short of a miracle to have found someone like you.

I am so blessed and happy that I sent you that email and look forward to sharing my journey even further with you and can’t wait to see what the future entails.

It is a lonely life as a tgirl but there are ways to overcome it and move forward. I was blessed enough to go to one of Julie’s girlie days and I tell you, you would not believe how amazing you feel afterwards. Her workshops are packed filled with tips knowledge and understanding, set in a very comfortable environment.

The way Julie transformed me into such a beautiful woman was out of this world! Meeting other ladies like myself for the first time was a big step but an awesome one.

I have received some lovely feedback on my new look and style from other ladies and friends and can’t wait to see what other goals I can achieve and overcome in the future.

BRING ON THE GOALS!

*HUGS* Michelle xoxoxox