Well it has been a busy time since the last T-Girls Tips.

Firstly thank you for all the rave reviews about our new on-line style program. It is a wonderful feeling being able to offer a program that can help so many girls. We all dream that we could have someone to guide us through the process of feminisation and how to be attired appropriately in a “women’s world” often that is not possible because of location, opportunity or cost. Your Personal Style Solution answers all those needs and in a matter of minutes gives you a style program that will show you how to best dress for your body type.

Come And Join Us At “The Style Lounge”

The Femininity Coach is about to launch a support service to all of you girls who have the Personal Style Solutions Program. Over the coming weeks you will be issued with your own password to access a world of knowledge through the soon to be launched Style Secrets On-Line website. As a member you can enter” the style lounge” where you will have access to the latest tips, tools and techniques along with industry experts offering you personalised advice. You can ask your own “Secret Style Agent” any questions you like. To find out more click here.

Good Morning TransAmerica

I recently had the pleasure of meeting Anja Gensel who visited Australia. It has been a pleasure getting to know Anja, she has a very interesting story after living in stealth for many years. Anja heads up a radio show in Alaska called Good Morning TransAmerica. Click on the link below to listen to her interview with Kathleen Cummings for the Gender Centre here in Australia along with her story on Stefanie Imbruglia and her battle and subsequent victory with The Australian Passport Office. Click here to listen to the interviews.

“Define your Style” – Frock Magazine

I am absolutely thrilled and delighted to have an article published in the latest frock magazine; the article titled “Define your Style” is the first in a series that will be published in Frock. If you have not checked out Frock I suggest you do. They also have a sensational offer for subscribers so click here to check it out!

Seahorse Ball

If you missed it last year now is your chance to grab your ticket.

I am often amazed at the beautiful stories and poetry I receive from so many of you girls. This week we are featuring a beautiful poem

MY GUIDING LIGHT

By David P. Krusen

Tonight is the night
The clouds are running through the sky
Like horses guiding
Through the night

Look at the stars
Shimmering like gold
Can’t you see?

Look at the shooting stars
Shooting like cannons one by one

Look at the moon smiling
And shining on the earth
Look at the sky and its dark color
But don’t be afraid
Don’t cry
The light is guiding us
And the clouds will protect us from harm

The air feels like it’s breathing through my body
And the wind is whispering in my ears

The wind will take me up
with the cloud of running horses
I will race and fly through the night
with my guiding light forever

Copyright © 2002 by David P. Krusen

5 Minutes With Miss Anja Gensel

Julie: Tell us a bit about you

Anja: I am a political activist in Anchorage, Alaska, effecting real change through my non-profit TG Advocacy organization called “TransAKtion!. I also produce and host a TG themed talkshow podcast called “Good Morning, TransAmerica!” which .tackles hot-button issues such as transpeople and Christianity, Transitioning in the Workplace, and The impact of transitioning on our partners and families. We travel the world from Australia to Kazakhstan to examine the quality and culture of life for the transpeople who live there. We have world-class guests such as Dr Doug Osterhaut, Dr. Toby Meltzer, and Dr Joel Beck, and many more to come. The show is available from iTunes or our website.

Julie: What has been the biggest challenge for you so far?

Anja: The gatekeeping behaviour of many of the politicians here in Alaska, and a particular televangelist named Jerry Prevo, who likes to use the public’s uninformed fear of transpeople as a weapon to bring down attempts to extend civil rights to GLBT Alaskans. Also, our general lack of civil rights here, across the USA.

Julie: If you had to start over again, what would you do differently?

Anja: Move to Norway or Australia, where I would already have the same civil rights as every other citizen, and not got involved in the seemingly endless uphill battle for even the basics here in the USA!

Julie: Who do you admire and why?

Anja: Phyllis Frye and Roberta Perkins. Phyllis is a gender warrior who takes the fight all the way to the halls of congress. And she has done so since the 1970s, and we are all better for it. She has been my role model since I was a teenager. Through Roberta Perkins’ efforts, the lives of thousands of Australian transpeople have been changed for the better. She founded the New South Wales Gender Centre, and brought the government’s attention to problems that sex workers face. This amazing woman has likely saved thousands of lives! How Amazing is that?!?

Julie: It takes courage and determination to step out, what tips can you share and what is your motivator?

Anja: We are blessed with one life that is tragically short. Far too short to spend it being someone that you are not. And yes, you will lose SOME friends-but you WILL make new ones who love you for who you are!

Julie: What are your 3 biggest success tips?

Anja:

1. Don’t attack or lash out at the uninformed. Educate them, and dazzle them with excellence!
2. Know your political leaders, and exactly what they stand for, Vote and participate actively in your government!
3. Always try to be a positive force in people’s lives. It comes back three-fold!

Fast Fun Facts About Anja

Nick Name: The Sledgehammer

Star sign: Aquarius

Favourite Book: Clan of the Cave Bear series by Jean Auel

Favourite Movie: Aliens

Favourite Saying: That which does not kill us, makes us stronger. Nitsche (My central theme!)

Best advice you’ve ever received: Don’t sweat the little stuff!

Best holiday: My recent trip to Australia. I met so many wonderful and inspiring people there. What a beautiful country and people!

Your long term goal: To have EVERY American to be able to enjoy the rights and freedom that we love to tell the rest of the world and ourselves that we stand for!

What others say about me: It depends on who you ask! To some, I am a relentless pitbull who refuses to hear reason, or a crazy man in a dress who tries to hijack the Alaskan lifestyle.

To some others, I am someone who is diplomatic while remaining strong in my convictions for civil rights, and stands up to bad behaviour in very public ways.

To some I am a role model, to others, a trouble maker.

Anything else we absolutely must know about you: I have been accused of hating America and hating Alaska. To those who claim this, I say Blah, blah, blah! A true patriot stands up and says “This is not right! And a true patriot seeks to keep government working for the people-All of them. We do NOT honour our troops or those who have died for our freedom, by quietly rolling over and taking it, when the government is wrong.

Note: If you would like to share 5 minutes about your journey or story you can do it here.

If you have something you would like published please send it to julie@thefemininitycoach.com

Bad Questions To Ask A Transexual – Calpernia Addams

I am sure many of you have heard of Calperinia Addams, she is a transsexual Hollywood actress. I came across this video she posted and wanted to share it with you. I am sure many of you have been asked some of these questions and if you haven’t you will have the answers up your sleeve!

Check out more of Calpernia Addams visit her website www.calpernia.com
Have a fantastic week

Hello! Well, life has been really busy for me over the past month or so because I have been working on a new, exciting project!

For the past couple of years I have been searching for a way to reach out and help as many girls as I can. I am thrilled to say that I have finally found a program that ticks all the boxes! I just partnered with The Australian Image Company to launch an on-line style program, and I’ve been bursting at the seams to tell you about it!

Ladies, This Is a LIFE-CHANGER

I don’t mean to be flippant, but I know that so many of you beautiful girls lack the confidence to walk out the door, and I want you to know you deserve more!

I fell in love with this program, and I am sure you will too. Just for you, my loyal supporters, I am offering you a 10% discount before I officially launch this program. Are you wondering how much it costs? Well, I recently conducted a survey and the feedback was that most would pay up to $250 for a style consultation such as this.

Guess What: It’s Less Than Half Of That!

You will find that this style program will help you build confidence, along with giving you the “know how” you’ve been looking for. And when coupled with the shopping guide, it will give you a new found freedom you’ve only dreamt of! We’ve put together a little video showcasing both my friends and clients so sit back and enjoy!

To claim your 10% discount you need to use the code jtgt001 when ordering your program, this link will only be valid until midnight on the 31^st of May

How to be Confident, Gorgeous and Sexy!

The Ultimate Style Makeover Program – Perfect for the T-Girls and Cross-Dressers

You’ve Got Style!

Regardless of where you are on your feminine journey, each and every woman has her own unique and gorgeous style. It’s not a matter of age, beauty, wealth, or size – and it’s so much more than just fashion. It’s about having the freedom to explore, discover and celebrate your femininity and unique style consistently and confidently.

Every T-girl needs a BFF to tell her whether or not she can “walk out the front door in that outfit.” That’s where The Femininity Coach and Your Personal Style Solutions fit in. We give you – and women like you all over the world – the most comprehensive information in a 
confidential, relaxed and engaging web-active format. It’s like having your very own 24/7 image consultant without the exorbitant one-on-one fees!

You’ll learn how to bring focus to your most flattering features, downplay your least favourite, and master the art of “putting it all together.” We’ll cover hot topics like deportment, makeup, shoes, hair and wigs – no fashionable stone is left unturned!

When you invest in your custom-made “My Personal Style Solutions” program, you’ll have more confidence in what you already know works well, be inspired by new ideas, and find the missing pieces of your style puzzle. Knowing what styles to look for, how to coordinate and accessorize and how to shop wisely will save you Frustration, Time, and Money – as well as the Heartache and Insecurity that come from feeling inadequately dressed.

My wish for you is that you look and feel great; that you dress in a way that makes you smile whenever you pass a mirror, and makes others smile when they pass you by. The way you dress will profoundly affect the way you feel, and you deserve to feel abundant joy! With Your Personal Style Solutions, you’ll travel more smoothly along your journey with confidence and high self-esteem.

Ultimately, style is about confidence and feeling good about your authentic self. To understand and express your personal style is to give yourself the gift of freedom. You’ll be able to relax more, feel confident and secure, enjoy your life, and reach boldly for the goals closest to your heart.

5 Minutes With Miss Tammy

Julie: Tell us a bit about you

Tammy: Cross dresser (now confirmed bi sexual) married man. Loves lingerie. Feel totally feminine in it otherwise still a man.

Julie: What has been the biggest challenge for you so far?

Tammy: Embracing bi sexuality

Julie: If you had to start over again, what would you do differently?

Tammy: Not put so much weight on in my 30′s. Marry a TG instead of a genetic girl

Julie: Who do you admire and why?

Tammy: Trans Veronica. Has natural C breasts and still loves to be active more than passive. So more male than female but is extremely feminine. The perfect woman from what I have seen

Julie: It takes courage and determination to step out, what tips can you share and what is your motivator?

Tammy: I haven’t stepped out.

Julie: What are your 3 biggest success tips?

Tammy:

• See a professional.
• See a professional; and
• See a professional.

You will achieve nothing without them

Fast Fun Facts About Tammy

Nick Name: Haven’t got one yet.

Star sign: Leo

Favourite Book: Bluewater

Favourite Movie: Indecent Proposal

Favourite Saying: Be gentle with me

Best advice you’ve ever received: Never never say die

Best holiday: I have had too many to choose just 1

Your long term goal: Stay married and have gorgeous TG on the side

What others say about me: Too raunchy to repeat here

Anything else we absolutely must know about you: I am too honest. Never ask me a question if your afraid of the answer you may get.

Q)”Do I look fat”
A) Yes (if of course you do)

Note: If you would like to share 5 minutes about your journey or story you can do it here.

SHE

by Cate Lousie Gersch

And share in her triumph over difficulties.
She opens her eyes, the new day dawns -
Her heart filled with joy, gone are the storms.
No longer bars imprison her soul –
Life gently beckons; she answers its call.
Freed from its prison, her Spirit now sings!
She now lives contented, at peace with the world –
No more Fear her master.
Tears of happiness spring from her heart –
Freely they come; she embraces each one
Like a lover’s caress, or the sun’s warmth on her skin.
She eagerly awaits like a child for what every day brings –
As a butterfly drifting on summer’s soft breeze,
She is now free to explore!
Once disheartened and broken,
Now with each step she takes,
Her confidence grows like captains of old
Sailing for lands yet unknown!
She marks out her map –
As the journey unfolds, her heart is the compass;
Her direction, it shows though trials she faces.
She knows she will overcome! She now lives empowered –
No longer in chains.
Will love ever find her?
For she longs to share with another
Her love, her joy, and care…
For there are those
Who will judge her for whom she’s become –
Threatened by her free Spirit
And her courage to endure.
Uncomfortable in her presence, they stay far away;
But as she tastes rejection,
She knows acceptance, too –
Trusting but a few now,
For she knows betrayal comes easily…
But for another with whom to share Life’s journey,
Her life is complete.
Wisdom and knowledge are now what she seeks –
Not things superficial, but waters still and deep.
She hopes with her passing, her life’s not been in vain,
But by her friendship, others might gain.
That they may take delight in knowing her true heart,

Have a sensational week

Love and Hugs

We have lots to bring you this weeks starting with part one of our “Body Shape” series. You can look great no matter your challenges. Once you know how to look great, your self esteem and self confidence will soar. You will walk, talk and act differently. This will cause others to respond to you in new and positive ways.

Gold Coast T-Girls Night Out

This Friday we are having a “Girls shopping night at Who’s Lucy”. Hover Over the picture to the right all the details.

Please RSVP to Mechelle or Julie on (07) 5520 5533 or email: julie@thefemininitycoach.com

5 Minutes With Vanessa Sheridan

This week I have the pleasure of introducing you a wonderful role model with in the trans community, Vanessa Sheridan.

Vanessa is an expert business consultant, speaker, trainer, and executive coach. Vanessa’s focus is to raise awareness within the business community. She has learned that social change often happens first in the workplace.  Her website is www.vanessasheridan.com.

Julie: Tell us a bit about you?

Vanessa: I’m a U.S.-based transgender business consultant, speaker, corporate trainer, and executive coach. (However, I’d be delighted to work internationally if there’s a legitimate opportunity.) I’m also the author of several books on transgender-related topics and have twice been a finalist for Lambda Literary Awards. My latest book is “The Complete Guide to Transgender in the Workplace,” and it’s the first full-length, hardcover volume on this topic ever to be released by a mainstream publisher. I’m proud and humbled by that fact. I hope the book helps many, many people.

Julie: What has been the biggest challenge for you so far?

Vanessa: Raising awareness about transgender issues throughout the business community and the larger society. It’s critical to let the public know that, while our lesbian and gay siblings deserve support and affirmation, transgender people have their own distinct concerns apart from the gay and lesbian communities. We need and deserve equal rights (not special rights) just like every other citizen.

Julie: If you had to start over again, what would you do differently?

Vanessa: I’d come out earlier and be bolder. But then, I’ve always been a slow learner and devout coward.

Julie: Who do you admire and why?

Vanessa: I admire anyone who is true to themselves and chooses to take pride in being who and what they are. Transgender people have a long, storied history that deserves respect, and I admire those who put themselves on the line for the sake of truth and honesty.

Julie: It takes courage and determination to step out, what tips can you share and what is your motivator?

Vanessa: Be aware, informed, and responsible. You owe it to yourself to know what’s going on in the world and to work for justice. Always be considerate, kind, and loving. Choose to be positive and optimistic. The world is full of people who will tell you that you can’t be successful, but you should refuse to listen to them. Be passionate, be involved, and be smart about it. When you fall down, keep getting up. You may or may not reach your goal, but you’re never going to reach it if you don’t keep on trying.

Julie: What are your 3 biggest success tips?

Vanessa:

1. Find your courage and step out. You can do this if you really want to.
2. Believe in yourself, and never stop. You are worthy.
3. “Illegitimi non carborundum.” (Don’t let the bastards grind you down.)

Fast Fun Facts About Vanessa

Nick Name: I don’t think I have one. If I do, no one’s told me about it.

Star sign: Sorry, I don’t buy into astrology.

Favourite Book: At the risk of sounding self-centered and/or conceited, I’d have to say my own book, “The Complete Guide to Transgender in the Workplace.”

Favourite Movie: “Contact,” with Jodie Foster. It made me think and imagine.

Favourite Saying: “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” William Shakespeare, “Hamlet,” Act 1, scene 5, 159–167

Best advice you’ve ever received: Question authority.

Best holiday: Easter. Most people say Christmas, and I love that holiday too, but as a Christian I have to say Easter. Without the hope that Easter provides, Christmas becomes rather meaningless.

Your long term goal: To be the recognized world leader in the field of transgender business services.

What others say about me: While I hope it’s generally positive, I really have no idea. I’m too busy doing my work and trying to make a difference to spend much time worrying about what others say about me.

Anything else we absolutely must know about you: I composed and recorded the musical scores for three documentary films that have been distributed worlwide. I sing, write, play several instruments, and love to play rock ‘n roll onstage. Upload your photo in

Note: If you would like to share 5 minutes about your journey or story you can do it here.

A Bit Of Fun

This week I received this clip from one of my very talented clients, she sings like an angel and I really wanted to share it with you. Thank you ROZZ for sharing your amazing talents with us.

Do you know of anyone within the Trans community that we can feature on our website? I am looking to highlight those who are flying the flag for the TG community. Each week I would like to feature one of these special ladies, if you would like to suggest someone please email me Julie@thefemininitycoach.com

Have a fun week

Love and Hugs

Watch this video to discover all you ever wanted to know about makeup, application and secrets that women have known for years. Julie reveals some of her insider tips after 28 years in the image business.

Get your copy of the Femininity Transformation Program now that has had some amazing results

We’ll be back on the 4th January and with some exciting announcements and new product launches. Thank you for being part of a wonderful year. Have a very merry Christmas and step out boldly and confidently in the new year.

And a Christmas wish from Kelly Johnson, a T-Girl visiting Sydney from the USA. Wow, isn’t she the most gorgeous and lovely woman?

Those Legs Were Made For Walking

Monica, what long legs you have! All the better for showing them off in a short miniskirt. Girls, these are legs to die for and at just over 6ft Monica is stunning and towers beautifully over Julie.

If you have ever wondered how to minimise broad shoulders, accentuate your feminine features with your clothing and makeup, then have a look at this video. Monica is a stunning example of a T-Girl who will never be read, who looks absolutely fabulous and an inspiration to us all.

Is there nothing worse than having a wig that looks like the cat slept on it! Do you want to turn heads for the right reason?

A dead give away will be your wig and make up.

Today we talk with Monica about some of the mistakes that many T-Girls make when starting out. Get the look…make it classic, classy and make it yours.

How you behave is an integral and important part of being stylish ahead of your clothing, makeup and jewelery. This is your etiquette and manners.

Perhaps the most important ‘manners’ are those for which there are set of simple time honoured rules.

Our habits and mannerisms in daily living (the most automatic things we do) define us as refined individuals, sensitive to the rights of others; or as thoughtless, ignorant and rude.

As in life, it is often the small things which make the biggest impact on how people perceive and experience you.

It is the simple things like:

As in life, it is often the small things which make the biggest impact on how people perceive and experience you.

It is the simple things like:

1.	Always remember to say PLEASE and THANK YOU at every opportunity
2.	A smile is the most important fashion accessory that you can own. Wear it at every opportunity.
3.	Make other people feel important by using their name when talking with them.
4.	Look at people when they are talking to you. Take an interest in what they are saying and ask them questions by using their name. For example, ‘So Mary what you are saying is…?’ This will make them feel special.
5.	Allow others to speak without interrupting them, your turn will come.
6.	When you answer your phone, put on your cheery voice and a smile. This will build instant rapport and make the other person feel at ease.
7.	Always say excuse me if you absolutely have to interrupt someone or when leaving the table or a room. Always say excuse me if you need to slide past someone who is in your way.
8.	Always use good table manners.
9.	Accept compliments gracefully and make an effort to compliment others.
10.	Remember, other peoples’ needs and feelings are as important as your own.

Sometimes we take it for granted that everyone is taught these simple rules when growing up. It never ceases to amaze me how many people don’t follow them. Consequently they seem ignorant and rude, despite the fact that they may look fabulous.

We often think that being stylish is all about what we wear, but it is just as much in how we act and treat other people. We all warm to people who show us genuine kindness and respect, and tend to avoid those who don’t.

Yes, you T-Girls are awesome I have been overwhelmed at the response to this video. Within a matter of days of this video hitting YouTube it had 2000 hits.

My question is WHY do you think this video has had way more hits than the other ones. The best answer get a copy of my new on-line ‘T-Girls Guide To Looking Fabulous.’

Men and Women walk differently as you can see in this video animation.

To cultivate a more feminine walk you may like to watch this several times, observe other women walking, and practice your feminine walk until is becomes more natural.

This will take practice as you begin to feel more comfortable walking. But the more you practice, the lesser the risk that you will be read, and the more confident you will feel out in public with your female persona.