Recently I helped T-Girl, Angela, make her transformation into the confident and beautiful woman she always was (go to Testimonials to read more about Angela’s transformation). After the process, Angela said to me, “…for so many years I have had a dream of feeling like a princess, well today I looked and felt like a princess, thank you for making my dream come true.”. This statement touched me profoundly and got me thinking about self esteem and childhood dreams.

The lack of self esteem can be a problem that can cripple us in today’s society. Constantly comparing yourself to other people or repeatedly telling yourself that you are not worth it, not beautiful, or could be better is damaging to your personal self image and accomplishing your life goals.

Not only can low self esteem stop your success, but it can also stop you ability to dream big and cause you to make bad decisions in life including entering stressful and unhealthy relationships. The journey of a T-Girl isn’t easy, but neither is any journey in life. Between the media and what our parents tell us, it’s no wonder we lost that free confidence we had as a child.

Remember when we were children? We never cared about what is and what is not acceptable, we never stopped what we said or what we wanted to do. We dressed the way we wanted and we definitely didn’t scrutinize ourselves in the mirror…we simply were ourselves and enjoyed life.

As children, the outside didn’t matter; we lived in our own worlds and didn’t care what people thought about us. Then suddenly, it all came crashing down. We didn’t believe we could be Cinderella or Snow White anymore; we began to squeeze ourselves in these little boxes that people put us in as we waited for their approval.

However, it’s not too late to re-examine your life and dream big again. As your take the journey to being a T-Girl, stop worrying about what other people think about you or society’s acceptance…be you!!

Here’s a great activity to get you started. Comment on this blog and share with me some of your childhood fantasies and role models. You’ll be surprised at how much you let go as you got older.

I look forward to hearing from each of you!

Sincerely,